Top tips on building connections at university

Izzy, a student at London School of Economics, asked students for their top tips on building meaningful connections at university, and here is what they had to say.

Start with you!

  • Put yourself first! Make sure you are in a good mental state of mind first
  • Reflect on past connections you’ve had. What has gone wrong? What has gone right?
  • Be your authentic self and you will attract the best people for you
  • Be engaged and attentive
  • Don’t be scared to make plans or connect with people
  • Don’t let social media get you down – it might seem like everyone is making friends easily
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Think about what is needed to make relationships flourish

  • Give the connections you make time to form into more meaningful relationships
  • Meaningful connections form best when you feel safe
  • I found it easier to make connections in spaces that were very social, for example the Student's Union or nights out
  • I found it easier to make connections in spaces that I felt comfortable in, for example the common room or uni halls
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Be a part of something

  • It is easier to start making connections if you have something in common, even if it’s just your uni course at the start
  • Be open to everyone, as uni is full of new people and characters
  • I would say, don’t just join societies – remind yourself to be an active member, otherwise you miss the community feeling they have
  • Remember that everyone is in the same boat. Everyone is trying to make new connections
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Be in the right places and put yourself out there

Students said they found these places the best places to meet new people:

  • Clubs and societies
  • Freshers Week events
  • Halls
  • Freshers Fair
  • After class – invite your peers to lunch
  • Student's Union
  • Coffee shops
  • University group chats
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Helplines and online resources

  • Samaritans: free, over the phone support by calling 116 123
  • The Mix: a helpline, online chat or text service
  • Student Space: a suite of guidance and resources to support students through university life

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