Healthy couples’ relationships

What do healthy couples’ relationships tend to look like? 

Healthy relationships should allow both people in the relationship to feel supported and connected, but also allow each person to maintain their independence. Communication and setting boundaries are two important components of a healthy relationship.

Healthy relationships

The following traits are often described as being present in healthy relationships

  •  Both people treat each other with respect.
  • Both people protect and value the relationship and make it a priority – for example, they invest time in the relationship.
  • There is trust.
  • Both people listen to each other and there is compromise.
  • Both people can be responsible for their own needs and also care for the relationship.
  • Arguments or fights do not lead to abuse or threats (for example, break-up).
  • Both people can speak openly to one another about their thoughts and feelings.
  • Both people feel supported to do things they like and the relationship is nurturing.
  • Both people are honest with one another and can hear feedback from each other without it leading to emotional abuse.
  • There is no abuse: physical, verbal, or emotional (for example, silent treatment or ignoring).
  • Both people are able to exert boundaries in the relationship.

Universal tips for maintaining healthy relationships 

It is the quality of your relationship(s) that is key to maintaining your health and happiness more than the number of relationships you have. It’s better to have a few close friends who you can speak to if something is bothering you than have many acquaintances. Tips for creating and maintaining good, healthy relationships in life are universal. The following tips and suggestions can help improve the relationships you have with those around you. 

Give time 

Put more time aside to connect with friends and family.

Be present

It can be tempting to check your phone, Facebook messages or even work emails when with family and friends. Try to be present in the moment and be there for your loved ones, and switch out of work mode whenever possible.


Actively listen to what others are saying in a non-judgemental way and concentrate on their needs in that moment.

Be listened to

Share how you are feeling, honestly, and allow yourself to be listened to and supported.

Recognise unhealthy relationships

Being around positive people can make us happier; however, our wellbeing can be negatively affected by harmful relationships, leaving us unhappy. Recognising this can help us move forward and find solutions to issues.